This is a post I’ve been wanting to write for a while now, if
you are a bit prudish, offended by sex or the idea of fat people having sex, you
want to go find something else to occupy your 5 minutes as this is not for you.
Also if any of my family members or friends are reading this, I recommend clicking
the little x in the corner.
If you are still here, then fab, settle down and get cosy,
maybe grab a biscuit (or three) and let’s talk about this taboo topic, which is
often whispered about in hushed tones in alley ways behind a crispy crème, But i am here to shout loud and proud FAT GIRLS HAVE SEX and not only do we have sex but we have sex with men who find who desirable and want us. Shocking i know, do you need a minute to get over that fact?
I have an active sex life and I am fat, who knew these two
things could go together right? Shocking some might think, a few of you might
even be disgusted and wonder how I lure these men to my cave of fatness, do I bribe
them? Pay them? Beg and plead with them? and no these men aren't aliens, they walk among us, you could be stood next to one in Starbucks or on the train. Madness i hear you say. It is none of these, they are
willing participants and often come back time and time again because they like my body and what it looks like and can do and i guess because i'm good at it.
Obviously I currently have a boyfriend so some of this post
will cover my relationship with him and some of this post will cover my
footloose and fancy free days before I got with him, when I dated a lot of
guys, and before you assume they must have looked like someone who could play
the beast in beauty and beast, I want to assure you I have dated some very good
looking men, my friends have told me so, there has even been shock at some of
the guys I’ve brought home and wonderment at how I managed it, The bottom line
on this is that I have a decent personality and can hold a conversation. Fat is
just part of who I am, it is not the sole entity of me and my personality and
most guys understand this, also the guys I have dated haven’t had a fetish for
fat girls and any guy who had tried to fetishize my body or just seen me as a
fat girl got none of my time. This is my key message to you ladies, don’t think
you have to take whatever you can get because you are fat, you are worth so
much more than that and deserve a guy who will treat you with some respect ,
hell you need to treat yourself with some respect.
When I first started uni I was nowhere near as body
confident as I am now. Sex was a lights off affair with me trying to hide my
lumps and bumps, girls even though it is dark a guy can still feel your body
and still knows you are fat, I don’t think you can hide that so get over it. It
held me back for a while, I wouldn’t go on more than a few dates with a guys as
i was scared of having to get naked and take things to the next level. One
particular incident comes to mind, I was seeing this rugby player, he was
popular and girls flocked around him fanning themselves and hoping to get his
attention, yet he had chosen me, I was leaving this uni to go to Glasgow and
had a leaving night with all my friends and this guy came over that night to
seal the deal with me, I was nearly physically sick with nerves at him seeing
me naked, his body could give David Beckham a run for his money, when he
stripped down to his pants, I actually might have been sat there open mouthed
fearing I was going to dribble. When I stripped off, did he run away crying? Did
he need therapy to get over seeing my wobbly thighs, my stretch marked belly
and my back fat? (These were the fears in the back of my mind,) No, he stayed
and actually spent time caressing my body, I continued to see him on and off
for a while when I was back from Glasgow and it was always him texting me. I learnt
a valuable lesson that night, men don’t really care what you look like, they
are just happy you are there, getting naked and are going to have sex with
them. Sad but true.
I have a preference for slimmer guys, it is just how I am,
sorry. There has been many a conversation with my friends and jokes that I might
crush them with my big body, and I think that this is actually a fear of the
bigger girl, we can’t get on top as we might be too heavy for them, when they
are going down on us we might suffocate them with our thunder thighs and really
we should just lie there in the missionary position so not to cause any injury
or problems, well this is utter bullshit, I have never killed a man yet with my
huge thighs, belly or boobs and I like to think if I did, he would die bloody
happy. There aren’t many positions I can’t do, I have never had a guy ask to do
something that I wasn’t able to do, if it is a bit difficult, we are both
mature enough to make it work for us, if you are having sex with someone you
should be able to say what is working for you or what isn’t and telling them
that maybe they need to move your belly or whatever shouldn’t be an embarrassing,
you are naked and inside each other for Christ sake, I think you are past being
polite and being embarrassed and if you are or he is then maybe you shouldn’t
be having sex. Yes I might get a bit sweatier than your average girl but again
they don’t care, if they are doing it right, they should be hot and sweaty too,
if not, they aren’t working hard enough and that is a whole other issue.
So how did I meet these guys? Online mostly, I used the
standard dating websites, I was always very honest and open about being bigger
(not that they couldn’t tell from my pictures) but I never wanted to end up in
a situation where they were disappointed after being given false pretences of
me being a size 6, it ends up being awkward for both you and it can really hurt
your ego. Like I said most guys just didn’t care. I would say in my last few
years in Glasgow I dated about 60 guys (dated does not meant slept with).
How do you deal with fat sex? Have you learned to love your body and let others love it? I would love to hear your opinions. If you have any comments or want to ask any questions but want to do so privately feel free to email me (link below)
Becky x
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