Fat, Relationships and Sex

I often see people asking the blogs I follow about this subject and decided to chip in with my two cents worth.

You are probably thinking who am I to me giving an opinion on this matter. Will I’m a fat girl and without making myself sound slutty, I’ve had my fair share of experiences with the opposite sex (even some with the same sex, but that’s not for now).

Girls seem to think if they are plus size or fat, guys won’t like them or want to go near them; this is not true in my experience. I know it can be hard to believe, and for a long time I didn’t think I was worth their attention and wouldn’t believe their compliments but girls you need to. A guy will like you for you; your personality will always be the thing that lures them in and keeps them, not your body and don’t be ashamed of it. While I am saying this, your body is important, you need to learn to love it, and maybe a guy can help you with this. Every guy I have been with has always told me how hot they find my body and how much they like it and I think they do genuinely mean this, there is nothing special about my body, it has rolls of fat and stretch marks like most fat bodies but it is about the confidence I have (often faked until recently).

And never think you have to settle for a guy, just because he is giving you attention, does mean he is worthy of your time, just because you are fat does not mean you can’t be choosy. Furthermore don’t think you can’t attract a good looking guy, I have slept with and dated some stunners (if I do say so myself) the kind of guy that when I’m out with them, other girls are looking at us, with envy in their eyes, wondering how I got him (this might not be true but it’s what I like to think in head).

So overall, just be yourself and there is a guy out there for you, you just need to dig deep and find the confidence to get out there and have fun, sex is something that will help you love your body. Online dating can be a great thing, and post a full length picture of yourself so you don’t have to then worry about meeting and them seeing how fat you are, wear your fat with pride and never be ashamed of it. Yes you aren’t going to be everyone’s cup of tea, but then not everyone is going to be your cup of tea.

If you would like any advice or just want to talk about anything, fat, sex, relationships or other, drop me an ask.